Living in a predominantly consumer society, there is a dominant cultural story of addition. We are told we need more of almost any product or service. More is better. We are increasingly busy with almost every aspect of our lives, because we keep adding, without ever subtracting.
Attempting dual knob control on a single knob function does not work. I see people trying to do this all the time, and as you may guess, it doesn’t work. I am not talking about home appliances or electronic gadgets of some sort; I am talking about feelings.
What distinguishes transactional moments from being transformational is what I would call transformational vulnerability. It is the ability to be heart centered in the midst of anything and everything. It is a choice and skill that acknowledges how mindfulness of our interactions can transform us in any moment.
One of the fundamental tenets of Emotional Intelligence (EQ), popularized by Daniel Goleman, is self-awareness. We can never be self-aware if we do not pause.
I am currently working with a client where we are focused on co-creating training and development from top to bottom. One of the amazing things about this company is whether the focus is executive development or front line workers, the same is true throughout the organization – curiosity gets you noticed.
Phil’s (Jackson) greatest success was not as an individual player, it was as a head coach. Then it hit me. Even though I have primarily been an individual executive coach, what I do now is more akin to head coaching. I had become an executive head coach.
If all that you ever see is yourself – than that is a very limiting perspective.
When Maya Angelou was recently asked about what makes a great leader, she responded by saying, “A leader sees greatness in other people. You can’t be much of a leader if all you see is yourself.”
This blog is a text of the Tedx OrangeCoast talk given on December 01, 2012 for the Women’s Conference with the theme of The Space Between.
They needed to spin as a team if they wanted to perform better. Together – they would connect the spokes to the rim. This simple model became a visual check as to whether they were being collaborative and working as a team.
Can I tell you what I think? We have become more of a telling, and less of a listening culture. If it is: email, texting, posting, sharing, tweeting, speaking or some other way of getting the information OUT, then that seems to be our dominant communication direction. Listening means that I choose to take information IN.