For most leaders, a traditional “elevator speech” is not as practical and/or effective as having a SOTU (State of the Union) at the ready. It is that quick, five to ten minute, communication that addresses what others in the organization most want to know.
Phil’s (Jackson) greatest success was not as an individual player, it was as a head coach. Then it hit me. Even though I have primarily been an individual executive coach, what I do now is more akin to head coaching. I had become an executive head coach.
This blog is a text of the Tedx OrangeCoast talk given on December 01, 2012 for the Women’s Conference with the theme of The Space Between.
They needed to spin as a team if they wanted to perform better. Together – they would connect the spokes to the rim. This simple model became a visual check as to whether they were being collaborative and working as a team.
Can I tell you what I think? We have become more of a telling, and less of a listening culture. If it is: email, texting, posting, sharing, tweeting, speaking or some other way of getting the information OUT, then that seems to be our dominant communication direction. Listening means that I choose to take information IN.
I am often asked what I think is the most important skill or competency that leaders need to develop. The easy answer is that they need to develop themselves from the inside out so that they can be more authentic and collaborative in this emerging and connected global economy.
Buy in does not work because it is compliance dressed up as an invitation. When we invite someone to do something, we are saying that either a yes or a no response is equally acceptable. When only a yes response is acceptable it is no longer an invitation.
One never knows where the lesson around collaboration may come from. Since our mobile devices need the ability to talk with each other, it would be helpful if we facilitated “their” need to communicate with each other, by having the humans talk with each other.
Living in the Land of And is more inclusive. It makes room for all of us to be part of the conversation, and not the debate. If you want to engage folks in the process of improving performance, or anything for that matter, then we need to intentionally co-create the space for conversation that is more akin to dialogue than debate.
We do require a substantially new way of thinking. It involves tapping the wisdom of the community and not just the one. Collaborative thinking invites us to a process that is always widening the circle. Who else needs to be involved? Who else is this impacting? Whose voice is not being heard?