“I am Inviting You” is a way to shift the paradigm in our lives and make relationships at work, home and in our communities more productive and joyful. Through inviting opportunities to grow and develop, we can rid ourselves of the stress and anguish that comes with trying to control situations, people and outcomes. As an advocate of expanding the realm of possibility and providing empowerment strategies, Kevin Buck shares his novel approach to some very simple origins of relationship building and life management.
These days we all have to be the CEO of our own lives. Those we invite into our lives and live in relationship with define much of who we will become and the possibilities we seek to explore. Finding optimum ways to foster mutually beneficial relationships and exchanges is a critical factor to success in all areas of our lives.
Life itself is the greatest invitation we will ever be given. In the moment that we inhale that first breath of air, we have entered upon a journey of becoming. And until we exhale that last breath, we are invited to become the unique combination of gifts that we are – in both our being and doing. The invitation is to become our best selves, in every successive moment. The beauty of invitation is that you can choose to say yes or no. Both responses are ok. To say that yes is the only response makes it a demand, not an invitation. We have the freedom to choose. We have the freedom to co-create the life we choose. It starts right now. I am inviting you!
I will share a story of myself so perhaps you will be able to discover how you can transform your own life. When my parents finally got a divorce, after so many years of physical and emotional abuse, there was an invitation as to how I could respond. I may have only been nine years of age, but I already knew that the life of demand and control was not good. It kept me from smiling. I knew that if I wasn’t smiling, then I wasn’t feeling good inside. All the abuse was not allowing my heart to grow. It actually felt like it was getting smaller. I knew that wasn’t good for me.
Some folks saw the divorce as a tragedy of another broken home. And with it happening in the late 1960’s, there was still a social stigma. Personally, it felt like an invitation to be free from the injustice of abuse and the opportunity to create the life I always wanted. I could smile and laugh again. I could enjoy my life. Others thought that it was so sad and so difficult. Upon reflection, it was the greatest invitation of my childhood. I had been set free to love and laugh again. And I haven’t stopped since.
Will transforming your life be helpful to the others in your life? It may or may not be. It depends on what they want from you. It is important to learn to distinguish between those who truly invite you into their lives and those who demand you only show up in a way that works for them. If you take a moment to reflect, you can discern the difference. The process isn’t about them changing. This is about you.
We all have moments in our lives when life shifts for us. It can be something that is out of our control, like death or someone choosing not to be with us any longer. It can be an illness or injustice. Or it can be a choice that we do make. No matter the circumstances – we always have an invitation as to how we will respond. If we attempt to control the situation and/or others, we will invite in constant anxiety and frustration. Or we can accept the invitation as an opportunity for growing into our best selves. What do you choose? “I am Inviting You”