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You are having a conversation and someone says something that presses your button(s). The bait and hook are dangling in front of you. If you react, you may end up talking your way out of the water and straight into their net. It is a choice. Usually it is best for the fisherperson to know [...]
Category: Personal Development
Who Are You?
When I started to do men’s work back in the late 80’s one of the questions we would ask guys was – Who are you? The catch was that you could not answer the question with what you did. This led to a lot of silence and struggle in articulating an answer that was not [...]
Transformational Dialogue: Where Giving and Receiving Come to Play
Presentation for M.A. Psychology Department of Clinical Training and Professional Development at Pepperdine University on November 1, 2011. As clinicians, we predominantly engage folks in conversations. And for the most part, we are the primary technology in the room. Transformational Dialogue is a particular kind of conversation that co-creates an environment where change and transformation [...]
Bringing The Heat
Little vulnerability and passion is a safe and stoic way to live, but it will never create fire.
An Unconventional Father-Daughter Dance
My favorite oldest daughter, Sarah, is getting married this weekend. She texted me earlier in the week about her song choice for the Father-Daughter dance. It is Todd Rundgren’s “Bang the Drum All Day”. You have probably heard the tune somewhere along the way. The beginning lyrics are: “I don’t want to work. I want [...]
Navigating the New Normal – Together
My wife was recently at a networking event, and the conversation drifted into how to have the difficult conversations with family about the new normal. Even though the topic was about finances, there was an underlying recognition that this was not an easy conversation, because it was full of emotions, expectations and change. Who do [...]
‘Tis the Season…
I invite you to quietly pause and reflect on those relationships that have been woven into the beauty and splendor of you. And then when possible, celebrate with others!