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Category: Personal Development

What Has You Biting?

You are having a conversation and someone says something that presses your button(s). The bait and hook are dangling in front of you. If you react, you may end up talking your way out of the water and straight into their net. It is a choice. Usually it is best for the fisherperson to know [...]

Who Are You?

When I started to do men’s work back in the late 80’s one of the questions we would ask guys was – Who are you? The catch was that you could not answer the question with what you did. This led to a lot of silence and struggle in articulating an answer that was not [...]

Transformational Dialogue: Where Giving and Receiving Come to Play

Presentation for M.A. Psychology Department of Clinical Training and Professional Development at Pepperdine University on November 1, 2011. As clinicians, we predominantly engage folks in conversations. And for the most part, we are the primary technology in the room. Transformational Dialogue is a particular kind of conversation that co-creates an environment where change and transformation [...]

Bringing The Heat

Little vulnerability and passion is a safe and stoic way to live, but it will never create fire.

Change: The Body/Mind Connection

Take a moment and without any effort to control your breathing, just become aware of the physical sensations of the air moving in and out of your nostrils as you breathe. Be sure to consciously relax your jaw and tongue. If you have accepted the above invitation, then you have already shifted and changed. Whether [...]

Playing With…

A major choice you have in playing any sport is whether you are playing within yourself and with the environment you are given. It is the fundamental choice between friend or foe, collaboration or competition.

An Unconventional Father-Daughter Dance

My favorite oldest daughter, Sarah, is getting married this weekend. She texted me earlier in the week about her song choice for the Father-Daughter dance. It is Todd Rundgren’s “Bang the Drum All Day”. You have probably heard the tune somewhere along the way. The beginning lyrics are: “I don’t want to work. I want [...]

Navigating the New Normal – Together

My wife was recently at a networking event, and the conversation drifted into how to have the difficult conversations with family about the new normal. Even though the topic was about finances, there was an underlying recognition that this was not an easy conversation, because it was full of emotions, expectations and change. Who do [...]

‘Tis the Season…

I invite you to quietly pause and reflect on those relationships that have been woven into the beauty and splendor of you. And then when possible, celebrate with others!

A Pause for EQ

In the deep breath, I ground myself and inquire about what I want to choose. The pause facilitates my self-awareness and creates the space for a response that is beneficial to me and others