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A necessary skill as an executive coach and leader is the ability to change perspectives, like changing lenses, in order to understand something differently. If we change the lens through which we are looking, we see the same things – differently. And if we see what we are looking at differently, it can change us [...]
Category: Leadership
What Has You Biting?
You are having a conversation and someone says something that presses your button(s). The bait and hook are dangling in front of you. If you react, you may end up talking your way out of the water and straight into their net. It is a choice. Usually it is best for the fisherperson to know [...]
Who Are You?
When I started to do men’s work back in the late 80’s one of the questions we would ask guys was – Who are you? The catch was that you could not answer the question with what you did. This led to a lot of silence and struggle in articulating an answer that was not [...]
Transformational Dialogue: Where Giving and Receiving Come to Play
Presentation for M.A. Psychology Department of Clinical Training and Professional Development at Pepperdine University on November 1, 2011. As clinicians, we predominantly engage folks in conversations. And for the most part, we are the primary technology in the room. Transformational Dialogue is a particular kind of conversation that co-creates an environment where change and transformation [...]
Why “Buy In” Does Not Work
Buy in does not work because it is compliance dressed up as an invitation.
Navigating the New Normal – Together
My wife was recently at a networking event, and the conversation drifted into how to have the difficult conversations with family about the new normal. Even though the topic was about finances, there was an underlying recognition that this was not an easy conversation, because it was full of emotions, expectations and change. Who do [...]